“Yes, the past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it, or learn from it!” – Rafiki
In the comedy “Groundhog Day” Bill Murray experienced the same day again and again, stuck in a time loop until he got the day “right.” What day would you choose to repeat until you got it right? Do you think it’s ever possible to get life “right”?
I’m not much of a gambler, and as I understand it, changing the past is a bit of a gamble. If you change even the slightest detail, you might miss out on certain opportunities in the future. If I hadn’t gone to a toga party despite the fact that I don’t like togas or parties, I might never have been spotted by the guy who thinks I’m his soul mate. If I hadn’t signed up for a specialist art degree in high school, I would never have had to take the last available business credit in grade 11, and I might never have realized I liked accounting better. If I hadn’t sat beside a certain redhead in my program’s orientation week, she might not have introduced me to one of my best friends. Time is fragile, and I’m not messing with it.
Is it possible to get life “right” then? I think that, on the whole, there is no “right” and “wrong” when it comes to life. There is just life. Maybe there are alternate universes where you made that different decision and things went down in a different way, but you’ll never get there anyway, so why regret? We’ve all made decisions we’re not happy with, but that was the way it went, and the best thing to do is to learn what you can and move forward.
This is far from a new idea, but it’s one I try to live by. Life always goes on, whether or not you’re ready for it to, so you might as well look to the future.